This breaks down to the power of belief. When you believe in yourself, you will have to confidence to do things that you would normally shy away from. When you believe in yourself, you become a different being entirely.
With that being said, it is important for you to recognize the difference between exuding confidence and arrogance. Arrogance comes when you overly push your ideals and force your personality onto others. Confidence comes when you are sure of who you are and you no longer need the validation from others to enforce that.
Confidence is a state of clear-headed either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence comes a latin word fidere which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self. Arrogance or hubris, in comparison, is the state of having unmerited confidence — believing something or someone is capable or correct when they are not. Overconfidence or presumptuousness is excessive belief in someone (or something) succeeding, without any regard for failure. Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.
The concept of self-confidence is commonly used as self-assurance in one’s personal judgment, ability, power, etc. One’s self confidence increases from experiences of having satisfactorily completed particular activities.
Self-confidence is not the same as self-esteem, which is an evaluation of one’s own worth, whereas self-confidence is more specifically trust in one’s ability to achieve some goal.
Our confidence comes from our preparation.
The dictionary is the only place where Confidence comes before Preparation.
It all snowballs.
Working out, I found I “ate” with my stomach more than my mouth. I wanted to be fed, rather than the tasty thing.
Then I wanted to cut sugar and soft drinks to make my exercise count more.
Then I want to show my body a bit more than hide it, so I wore better fitting clothing.
Then my hair and beard mattered more. Then I got positive attention, so I was showering and washing more.
Then I felt better about myself and had more guests so I tidied my home.
With a better life, came confidence, I was more willing to go to social engagements, rather than avoid them.
I felt more confident, so I had a higher standard for a partner, which meant having better people in my life.
Nothing important has ever been built without irrational exuberance.
Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive.
Assertive people tend to have the following characteristics:
- They feel free to express their feelings, thoughts, and desires.
- They are “also able to initiate and maintain comfortable relationships with other people.”
- They know their rights.
- They have control over their anger.
- They are willing to compromise with others, rather than always wanting their own way and tend to have good self-esteem.