It’s the actual walking up to her and beginning the conversation that tends to be the more difficult aspect of it. Think of it as an airplane analogy. If you are a pilot, and you don’t make the correct approach, you are not going to land on the runway.
If you have been practicing your small talk with everyone you meet, whether you are attracted to them or not, you will find that it tends to be easy to get over that initial awkwardness when you are approaching a hot woman. That is because you have confidence.
You want to strive to keep your language as positive as possible. If you utilize positive words, even when discussing something negative, it can help to keep the conversation’s mood upbeat.
When you mirror someone, you are subtly mimicking aspects about them, which they will not notice. However, they will subconsciously feel more like they know you or can trust you. Mirroring is simple, but it takes practice to get just right and to make sure it is not too obvious.
Some of the elements that can be mirrored include:
- Body language, such as gestures and how they are sitting.
- Tempo of the speech.
- Vocabulary choice.
- Facial expressions.
- Pitch and volume.
One of the biggest mistakes that a person can make in this endeavor is to start off by always trying to talk to the most gorgeous woman in the room. If you are unaccustomed to doing this, your head is going to start swimming in doubt the moment you start thinking about it.
This is because they have not put in the time to practice talking with enough women so that they are confident enough to approach the one that they truly want to be with. So, as with anything else in life, practice is going to make perfect.
Let’s say you are in the grocery store, and you see a woman in the produce section. You could start a conversation by asking her the best way to check whether or not a melon is ripe.
The opinion that you ask for could be about anything, even if you may not really need the opinion.
If you honestly disagree, then you can make it known, but you still need to make that a respectful disagreement. This can allow for some more stimulating and interesting conversation.
You don’t necessarily have to agree with what she said, but you are letting her know that you “get” her because you’ve used her own words to indicate that. It shows that not only do you understand her, but you are also listening to her.
Women aren’t always as graphic, at least openly, when it comes to talking about sex. Instead, they tend to be more responsive to innuendo, and that’s something that you will want to master, as well.
Innuendo means talking about something that is nonsexual in a way that makes it seem sexual and using certain words that can imply the idea of sex without coming out and saying it.
However, most of the time, it’s going to take a date or 3 before she decides to that she wants to sleep with you. You are going to want to work on building an emotional connection with her.
Show curiosity in who she is and what she has to say. Being genuinely curious about her can prove to be something she finds very attractive, and it can help to make the emotional connection easier. Instead of just trying to connect with her on an intellectual or logical level, you want to create that emotional connection.
Why is she so passionate about them? Get her to talk about those things that she loves and that are important to her and show her that you love her passion and want to know more.
In addition, try to make eye contact with her when you touch her. Whether she’s laughing from a joke you told or she’s giggling from something dirty that you just said, having that touch connection along with eye contact can be quite powerful. It can release hormones in the body that she finds pleasurable, and you certainly want to be associated with that kind of pleasure.
Few things can turn off a woman as fast as finding out that the man she thought she was attracted to is actually needy.
Women are more attracted to emotional strength and emotional security. They are turned off by the weakness exhibited by someone who is needy and clingy. It is a sign that you do not have confidence with women, and that is often a subconscious indicator to women that you would not be a good mate.
Some men are needy because they feel that they need to have approval constantly. Those men diminish power in a conversation or a relationship. It can also be a form of seeking attention, and this gets to be very annoying to women after a while. To them, it almost seems as if you are a child seeking the attention of their mother. That’s the last thing that you want.
If you keep making grand gestures, instead of seeming romantic, it seems desperate and needy.